The Byrnes Blog

What is it you are trying to do? Influence? Teach? Inform? Impact? What is it that would sway any of us in those categories? When do you find yourself willingly being influenced? Or, open to being taught? Or, able to really listen to something new? Or, and this is a big one, changed ? What conditions need to be in play to have any of those things happen? It may not be the only condition, but a powerful one is to be included. To feel included. And one of the easiest ways to d

44 years later and I still remember that moment. The moment she posed the question. Another incredibly simple question, but the kind you know the answer to before all the words are said. The kind of question where the answer is felt in your gut before your mind has finished comprehending. I was twenty-one and hadn’t finished college yet. I had pursued an art degree for my undergrad, but it wasn’t working out quite like I had hoped. Perhaps it was a case of a little fish in a

Years ago, when I was becoming an executive coach, my teacher shared a brilliant framework with the class, one that I still use every single day. He said, when you are trying to explain something to another person, but they just aren’t grasping what you are saying, or they remain perplexed, he said, as a coach, ask yourself this question …’ why would they know any different?’ It’s an incredibly simple question that puts a completely new frame on whatever is going on. So often